What is Mediation?
In mediation we shift from “I” to “We.” In neurological terms, we are shifting from the fight/flight/freeze reactions of the amygdala to the planning, creating, and relational mindset of the pre-frontal cortex.
From "I" to "We."
Mediation is: an opportunity to understand the perspectives and emotions of all the parties involved in a conflict/dispute situation.
Mediation is: a process that helps all the parties involved to shift away from an adversarial mindset to a more relational understanding.
“"I suppose it is tempting, if the only tool you have is a hammer, to treat everything as if it were a nail.”
Abraham Maslow—Toward a Psychology of Being
If we are upset, and frustrated, and all we have is a hammer, then we are limited in the kind of outcomes we can create. This leaves us powerless to create meaningful change in our lives.
“Our wrong perceptions lead to conflict”
Thich Nhat Hanh—The Art of Power
The bottom line is: we don't want a fight, we don't want to run, and we don't want to freeze. We want meaningful resolutions that we can determine. This is what Mediation is about for me.