The solution trap • we can always take a breath
If we look for a fixed answer, a solution, a reason to rationalize whatever the experience, are we trapping ourselves? After all, we are assuming there is a singular answer? And how do we know that single answer is true?
Perhaps we are worried and anxious, perhaps we don’t have time to think about more than one answer? Perhaps we don’t have time for that one answer to not be true?
When we are pushed and pulled, when Time is something we never seem to have enough of, can we take a breath? It might not feel like we can but we can but we can: We can always take a breath because we are going to breathe anyway so why not get the most from it?
Any answer—whether it is a “good” or “bad” answer—is a way to stop the experience of uncertainty. And we know life is filled with uncertainty, so if we can settle a few things that would really help us. But we also know we need time to process our experience.
If we step beyond the belief that we have control, we can shift into a different kind of understanding. This understanding is entirely active. And, as opposed to this idea that we can fix and control it we can actually take a breath and move beyond the solution trap.
Let me know what you think. I appreciate the conversation.